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Mary helps you improve your parenting in 60 seconds or less!
These are brain-science and child development simplified . . .
with a script to try the concept out right away.
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My Kids Aren't Safe?
The Background I vaguely remember reading things about children feeling ‘safe’ when I was in the throes of chaos and focusing simply on...
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Disappointment Muscles
What is it? Research has shown that a resilient brain is one that recovers more quickly from an upsetting experience. And you can help...
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Holding Space
The Background Often when a child comes to us with something that is causing suffering, it’s natural to want to help. If they are upset...
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Don't Punish Behavior You Want
The Background One of the purposes of ‘parenting’ is to promote better behavior, right? Children then learn what is appropriate, build...
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Neutrality
The Background Very often, conscious or not, we parent from a place of fear, worry, defeat...and we project that. Children are incredibly...
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Connect B4 Correct
What is it? We just can’t help ourselves. We can see that the child is going to ‘fight back’, we feel a bit out of control and we know...
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The Vegas Principle
Kids thrive with boundaries and limits. But parents have a hard time being consistent. The Vegas Principle is the answer.
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Microstep Minute: The Apology
We all do things that hurt our kids. Some are avoidable, some aren’t. Thankfully, apologizing is always an option.
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The Repair
We all blow it. We lose our temper. We yell at our kids or hurt their feelings. The good news? You can always repair. Always.
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Emotional Flooding
What is it? Have you ever been so consumed with an emotional reaction that you say “I can’t think right now”? That’s the same as a...
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Praise as a Consequence?
Background Let's assume we agree that the purpose of a parenting consequence is to promote better behavior. I can also tell you that...
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Managing Big Emotions
Background? Emotions are involuntary, neurological responses that happen in your body. Just about every bodily system reacts to the...
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All About Shame
What is it? According to Brene Brown, shame is that intensely painful feeling or experience of believing that we are flawed and therefore...
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Evolution, not Resolution for the New Year.
We are, as the saying goes, creatures of habit. As Jeff Olson in The Slight Edge says, “The sobering fact is, we do 99.99 percent of...
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